My path to be bitter free day 2.
Sometimes I have felt honor bound to respond to attacks, insults, slights, etc. Sometimes I don't respond but I'll bend the ear of someone else about what the person did.
I'm thinking that sometimes the need to respond is sign of personal weakness. Just reading blogs and reading how people go overboard over little to nothing makes me look at myself. Am I that fragile? That weak? That quick to be offended? If I am, Lord please take it away. Renew my spirit and free me of the angst.
It's okay to express your feelings but I think if you do it in a way to hurt, get back or get the upper hand then its a problem. A soft answer does turn away wrath and what is wrong with the person that can't respond with a soft answer.
I'm also realizing that some people think people know not to mess with them, when really people just know you crazy and want to leave you to your craziness.
I won't allow people or things to upset or frustrate me. They are either doing it on purpose or doing it on accident and in both cases being upset is silly. If its on purpose they are crazy because what sane person needs to upset people.
Everything is not worthy of a response and my goal is to not respond.
My life's journey does not include being gratified at having the last word or the nastiest or smartest quip. I don't want that on my headstone.
I want to leave a memory of a good person, one that was forgiving and saw the best and thought the best of others- even if they didn't deserve it. I don't want to leave the story that if you said something to upset me I would set you straight and put you in your place. I want to be the peaceful loving woman.
I realize that if I am an unkind young woman, I will be an unkind old woman. Only I'll be an alone old woman because no one will want to be around the old lady who is unkind and smart mouth.
Both of my grandmothers always had visitors as they got older. That had kind loving spirits and treated people - even strangers- graciously. They did not hold grudges or bitterness. They actually liked people and I'm realizing a lot of people don't really like people.
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5 comments:
Wow, I am enjoying reading these posts about getting rid of bitterness. You made me think about myself. Lord knows I feel like I have to have the last word sometimes. I’ve been trying to get rid of that need for over a year, and I’m better, but not completely there. I’m never mean or nasty to people, but I have to completely realize that “everything is not worthy of a response”.
And, omg…I never thought about people upsetting me in this way, “They are either doing it on purpose or doing it on accident and in both cases being upset is silly.”
Thanks for sharing…I felt like I’ve learned something here.
LOL.Me too, I hope to break through and break free. Being upset is too time and energy consuming
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I want to leave a memory of a good person, one that was forgiving and saw the best and thought the best of others- even if they didn't deserve it.
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THIS.
Too many people seem to get off on one upping,being mean spirited, or "better than" the next guy. iT's not pretty.
Then I find myself spending time wondering why others delight in lacking grace and I check myself.
Great post...
I utilized the have a kind word method when a couple of women in my family began to get really ugly with me because of negative things going on in their lives. Other family members would come to me with she said, she said stuff and I never said an ugly word...ever.
While I have officially un burdened myself from these women, no one can say I hold a grudge or said anything meanspirited. I am am going to make a point out of doing this for non-family members also!
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